I have had the privilege of spending the last 8 days at the General Assembly of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). Not only was I a participant, as a CCDOC clergy, but I was also invited to speak and share a workshop on the “Best Practices and Resources of to Manage Church Related Employees”.
As I prepared for the workshop, I considered all the great mentors I have had in my ministry. I also remembered the lessons I learned on what to do and not to do from those mentors. I also considered what the magic-something that makes someone a mentor versus just a monitor.
- watches instead of participates.
- talks instead of listens.
- critiques before encourages.
- evaluates without historical understanding.
- gets down in the trenches with you.
- listens, a lot, before talking.
- watches for moments to encourage and finds the way that support will be best received.
- learns the history and the narrative before offering constructive evaluation.
In my current context, I directly supervise 3 full-time ministry staff and indirectly supervisor many more. As I consider what my supervisor/supervisee relationship will look like and how it will grow in the next few months, I will keep this list in mind.
On this Monday, review and prayerfully consider your relationship to those who walk with you in ministry. Are you a mentor or a monitor?