“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11 NRSV
Yesterday was a pretty bad day. I am grieving leaving my current congregation. I am admittedly working through all the stages of grief and yesterday was a hard one. But it got me thinking… All of us have bad days, so what do we do with them?
I really wanted to place yesterday in the “you can have it back” category, but I kept thinking about how that was such a selfish, ungrateful way to look at the day that I had been given. We can’t just throw away the bad days, we have to manage them. They will come, so why not have a plan to have your best bad day.
Some strategies for administrators on a bad day:
1. Get out of the office. If it is a gorgeous day, work outside. If your kids are out of school, take them on an “adventure”. If you partner is available for lunch, steal away to a secret long lunch. If you can’t leave the church building, go sit in the sanctuary. If nothing else is available, find a quiet place and just sit.
2. Breathe. On bad days, we tend to breathe like we are charging animals. Take a moment, plant your feet squarely on the floor, sit up in your chair and take deep breaths. (Check out this link from WebMD on breathing)
3. Change tasks. If something is frustrating you to no end, leave it alone for a bit. Admittedly this is the hardest strategy for me. I am determined to roll a heavy boulder uphill, even when I don’t need to. Let it sit for a while, step away from it, and maybe when you come back to it the task wont’s be as frustrating or overwhelming.
We all have bad days. Some are caused by outside forces and some are of our own creating. Be prepared for them to come, but know God is in the bad days too. God is holding you, standing beside you, suffering with you, and able to take it. You are an awesome administrator, don’t let one bad day be the measure of your ministry.